{"id":14030,"date":"2017-02-13T09:30:28","date_gmt":"2017-02-13T14:30:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.kaspersky.com\/blog\/?p=14030"},"modified":"2019-11-15T06:50:17","modified_gmt":"2019-11-15T11:50:17","slug":"online-dating-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kaspersky.com\/blog\/online-dating-tips\/14030\/","title":{"rendered":"Online relationships: Are you dating a scammer?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Before the advent of Internet dating, we used to head to various places to socialize and meet people \u2014 bars, pubs, clubs, parties, weddings, places of worship, and even the library. It took physical effort and mental courage to walk up to someone and introduce oneself.<\/p>\n<p>Now, with online dating websites and apps, it has become easy to find a partner \u2014 or in this case, a match \u2014 even from a different country if you wish. You can start judging the person by looking at their picture and reading their profile details to see if they might be your type.<\/p>\n<p>Computers and servers in these virtual dating agencies filter the millions of people in their databases to find your closest match based on various criteria. You can scroll through profiles of people near you on your smartphone and send them a flirty text copied from a Google search, avoiding the effort and anxiety of thinking of what you would like to say to your match.<\/p>\n<h3>On the Internet, nobody knows you\u2019re a dog<\/h3>\n<p>Let\u2019s say you\u2019re scrolling through profiles on a dating site and you spot a nice woman who you might like to date. You send her a message, and she responds, saying she wants to get to know you! She wants to talk to you!<\/p>\n<p>But behind the guise of that sweet-sounding woman may actually be a man \u2014 a cybercriminal who only wants to get your phone number to scam you.<\/p>\n<p>Last year, Russian police <a href=\"https:\/\/www.kaspersky.com\/blog\/dating-sites-fraud\/12673\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">arrested two men from Smolensk<\/a> who pretended to be young, attractive girls stealing the hearts of men in Moscow and then threatening and tricking them into sending large sums of money. The criminals were found to have taken roughly 1 million Russian rubles (about US $16,500) with this scheme.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"500\" data-dnt=\"true\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">When things are not what they seem on online <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/dating?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#dating<\/a> sites <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/kazQtuv6rF\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">https:\/\/t.co\/kazQtuv6rF<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/IT?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#IT<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/wpyTpIRmgQ\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">pic.twitter.com\/wpyTpIRmgQ<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Kaspersky (@kaspersky) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/kaspersky\/status\/757955756067020801?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">July 26, 2016<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>Now, some of you may be thinking that we\u2019re calling men are more gullible, but cases abound of women being scammed out of money by Internet lovers. However, we may never know the whole story: Many victims, especially married people, keep silent.<\/p>\n<p>Also, there are other kinds of fraud \u2014 for example, accounts <a href=\"https:\/\/www.kaspersky.com\/blog\/ashley-madison-one-year-after\/12652\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">created by website employees<\/a> to create the impression of more women being registered on the site than there actually are. Then, some sites use bots created to lure newcomers into chatting and get them to pay money to continue the conversation.<\/p>\n<p>Anyone can be reeled in. Monica Whitty, a psychologist from the UK\u2019s University of Leicester, explains the situation: \u201cYou don\u2019t have to be \u2018vulnerable.\u2019 You can be a highly intelligent person with a good job. The strategies these fraudsters use are highly sophisticated.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Whitty, whose field is cyberpsychology, has acquired much experience working with victims of romance frauds. In her view, victims experience double pressure: They blame themselves, and their friends and relatives blame them as well. Most crime victims receive sympathy and support, Whitty points out, but with online fraud, friends and family often blame the victim. \u201cTheir response is, \u2018How could you be so gullible?'\u201d<\/p>\n<h3>Valentine\u2019s Day cometh<\/h3>\n<p>As we approach the official day of love, many of us will receive the traditional anonymous valentines \u2014 albeit in digital form. It usually doesn\u2019t take a rocket scientist to guess the sender, but sometimes, the admirer is actually unknown. In those cases, curiosity is only natural, but stay vigilant \u2014 instead of romance, such e-cards may lead to malware, real money loss, or both.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, installing a reliable Internet security suite such as Kaspersky Internet Security will protect you from malware and malicious links, but it will not protect you from a broken heart, unfortunately.<\/p>\n<p>So to keep you safe from heartbreak and scams this Valentine\u2019s Day, we have put together a list of common scams and some tips to help you stay safe.<\/p>\n<h4>Scam: Mutual connection<\/h4>\n<p>In this scam, a stranger contacts you through social channels and claims a common interest or a mutual connection, for example, from an introduction at a wedding or large gathering. If you post a lot of pictures and haven\u2019t updated your privacy settings, it\u2019s easy for cybercriminals to make some educated guesses about how best to approach you.<\/p>\n<p><b>Tip:<\/b> If you receive such a claim, even if you\u2019d really like to meet someone new, dismiss the conversation and don\u2019t add that person as a friend. Also, update your privacy settings to share your photos and posts only with people you really know.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"500\" data-dnt=\"true\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">Are you up to date with your <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/facebook?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#facebook<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/security?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#security<\/a> settings? <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/iDhv2vIJI1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">https:\/\/t.co\/iDhv2vIJI1<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/SocMe?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#SocMe<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/SMM?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#SMM<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/SocialMedia?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#SocialMedia<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/TbWl93V0nt\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">pic.twitter.com\/TbWl93V0nt<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Kaspersky (@kaspersky) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/kaspersky\/status\/807261313382617092?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">December 9, 2016<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<h4>Scam: Intimate activity<\/h4>\n<p>Shame continues to be a reliable way to extort money. This kind of scam is most typical in a new, long-distance Internet-dating relationship. After an intense courtship period, the scammer asks the victim to connect with them via webcam and chat. The fraudster\u2019s webcam is mysteriously broken, but they heap praise on their victim and, with a combination of flattery and persistence, persuade them to take off their clothes or perform other intimate acts. The scammer then reveals their true identity. They claim to have made a video recording and threaten to share the video with mutual social media friends or post the recording online unless the victim sends money. Once the victim complies, the cycle begins anew, with demands increasing until the victim finally refuses.<\/p>\n<p><b>Tip:<\/b> If it involves a webcam, refuse all requests, no matter what they are. If the relationship is real, you can wait to meet each other in person.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"500\" data-dnt=\"true\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">Reason 6011 you should cover your webcam with; Hackers broadcast hacked <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/PC?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#PC<\/a> on <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/YouTube?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#YouTube<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/weENjOFDAt\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">https:\/\/t.co\/weENjOFDAt<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/IT?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#IT<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/vmltA8agUR\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">pic.twitter.com\/vmltA8agUR<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Kaspersky (@kaspersky) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/kaspersky\/status\/725780463214813184?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">April 28, 2016<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<h4>Scam: Fake dating sites<\/h4>\n<p>Remember the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.kaspersky.com\/blog\/ashley-madison-data-finally-leaked\/9620\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">Ashley Madison leak<\/a>? That case offered a glimpse into the world of fake dating sites. The services claim to offer legitimate hookups, but they are either severely underpopulated or awash with scammers and bots.<\/p>\n<p><b>Tip:<\/b> Look out for sign-up questionnaires that are light on personal details but heavy on financial info. Also watch for a deluge of attention just after you create your profile. If your profile contains just a few lines of text, no photo, and no set preferences, but you start getting message after message from potential suitors, chances are you\u2019ve stumbled across a fake dating site.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"500\" data-dnt=\"true\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\"><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/Karma?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#Karma<\/a> Watch: <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/AshleyMadison?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#AshleyMadison<\/a> a year after hack <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/8PdPTmk3iL\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">https:\/\/t.co\/8PdPTmk3iL<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/I0VDTStPia\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">pic.twitter.com\/I0VDTStPia<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Kaspersky (@kaspersky) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/kaspersky\/status\/756492703534309376?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">July 22, 2016<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<h3>Scam alert signs<\/h3>\n<p>Other things to pay attention to even on legitimate dating sites \u2014 let\u2019s face it, scammers are everywhere \u2014 include the following:<\/p>\n<h4>Suspicious spelling and grammar<\/h4>\n<p>If they supposedly come from an English-speaking nation, be on the lookout for awful spelling and grammar. Not everyone looking for love online has the soul and finesse of William Shakespeare \u2014 and there\u2019s certainly nothing wrong with not being a native English speaker \u2014 but scammers often cross borders electronically in search of new victims, and so truly terrible grammar is a red flag. The same goes for e-mails. Native English speakers have a natural cadence when they speak and write that isn\u2019t easily mimicked. Be suspicious if something seems \u201coff\u201d about the tone or pacing.<\/p>\n<h4>Cut-and-paste<\/h4>\n<p>If messages and profile descriptions read <em>too<\/em> well, pay attention. Often, scammers won\u2019t bother writing their own material but instead lift it from other websites or dating profiles. Run suspiciously perfect text through an Internet search to see if any matches come up. If they do, don\u2019t message or respond to the con artist.<\/p>\n<h4>Weird links<\/h4>\n<p>Legitimate users often post links to their favorite bands, travel destinations, or hobbies. Scammers typically fill their profiles with links to low-quality sites that are trying to sell a product or teach you to \u201cget rich quick.\u201d You may also find links to X-rated websites \u2014 a blatant warning sign that a profile isn\u2019t entirely legitimate.<\/p>\n<h4>Double-time<\/h4>\n<p>Strong feelings often abound during the first few weeks of any new romance, but scammers try to accelerate this process even further by offering not only a huge volume of compliments and kind words, but also intimate details of their own life that they have \u201cnever shared with anyone else.\u201d What can be even more troubling is if after just a few chat sessions or e-mails, they\u2019re asking for a small amount of money to cover strange expenses \u2014 perhaps they\u2019re stranded in a foreign country, have a family member in medical distress, or have just been robbed. Whatever the situation, they need you to wire transfer money ASAP. If requests for money are ever on the table, walk away.<\/p>\n<h3>Have a safe date<\/h3>\n<p>\u2028In short, online dating is just another part of the online world. Similar dangers lurk everywhere online; dating sites just happen to bring out creeps who specialize in exploiting people who have made themselves somewhat emotionally vulnerable. The solution isn\u2019t to avoid dating sites any more than it is to avoid social media or shopping or getting news online. Rather, stay <a href=\"https:\/\/usa.kaspersky.com\/blog\/tag\/dating-sites\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">informed<\/a> and alert to navigate safely and with confidence.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The days of dropping cheesy pick-up lines at social gatherings are coming to an end. With dating websites and apps, it has become way easier to find a partner online. 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